Five Tips for When Your Senior Is Being Mean

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Very often aging adults start being mean or awful to their caregivers. One reason this happens is that your senior feels safe to do so, oddly enough. It doesn’t feel like a compliment at that moment, though. Here’s how you can try to get through these tough times.

Elder Care in Coral Springs FL: Senior Anger
Elder Care in Coral Springs FL: Senior Anger

Do What You Can to Stay Calm

If your senior is feeling as if it’s okay to start venting on you with mean behaviors, getting upset is going to escalate things dramatically. It’s much better for you and for her if you can stay as calm as possible. Sometimes that might mean that you leave the room or simply ignore what she’s saying unless she’s expressing a true need.

Steer Clear of Anything Close to Arguing

You definitely want to avoid anything that could be construed as arguing. If your elderly family member is feeling particularly mean, though, anything you say might be considered arguing with her. Remember to take deep breaths and to remain as calm as possible.

Figure out What Might Be Behind the Behavior

What set off the attack? If you can figure out what might be behind the behavior you’re receiving you might be able to help her to shift what she’s doing. If she’s feeling uncomfortable or tired, that might make her lash out at you. Assess what’s going on and whether there’s anything that you can do to make it better.

It Isn’t Personal

This isn’t always easy to remember, especially if the things your senior is saying or doing are truly awful, but this isn’t about you. It’s not personal, no matter how much it seems as if it is personal. She’s reacting to a situation and you feel like a safe place for her to vent how she’s feeling. That doesn’t always help, but it’s a reminder you might need to give yourself often.

Take Time Away

Take some breaks from all of this for a little while. No one enjoys having mean insults or behaviors thrown at them long term. Hiring senior care providers gives you a chance to escape for a little while and ensures that your aging family member still has help. You both might benefit from that time away.

It’s not easy to take care of someone that you love and have them take their anger and frustration out on you. Do what you can to take the best care of yourself that you can.

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About the author: Stephen Sternbach
Stephen Sternbach has been the Chairman of the Board of Directors, President, and Chief Executive Officer of Star Multi Care Services since 1987. After the sale of the New York and New Jersey operations of Star Multi Care Services, Sternbach brought the company private where he remains President and CEO of this newly developed $22M home healthcare company. With Sternbach at the helm, Star Multi Care Services employs more than 550 employees, in six offices throughout Florida, Pennsylvania, Ohio and New York. From 1978 to 1986, Sternbach was associated with Automated Data Processing, Inc. (“ADP”)–a provider of information services, where he held several marketing positions before becoming the Director of Sales. 1999-2008 Sternbach was an active participant on the Board of Directors for Proginet–a computer software company based in Garden City, New York. He also served on the Board of Trustees of the Long Island Chapter of the National Multiple Sclerosis Society from 1996-2002. In 1996, Stephen Sternbach was named “Entrepreneur of the Year” by Ernst & Young, Paine Webber and NASDAQ. Sternbach was also named in Crain’s New York Business Article, “40 Under 40” Successful Business Executives/Future Business Leaders in 1995. While maintaining a diversity of business and personal interests, Sternbach concentrated most of his efforts over the past 28 years towards continuously improving the quality of services delivered by the Star Multi Care Services’ family of companies. Stephen Sternbach holds a Master of Public Administration from Syracuse University – Maxwell School of Public Administration and a Bachelor of Arts in Industrial Relations and Personnel Administration from Ithaca College.