Why Isn’t Your Senior Excited about Having Your Help?

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As your senior grows older, you may find that she needs more and more of your help. You may be perfectly happy to do whatever you can for her as her caregiver, but that doesn’t mean that she’ll be happy to receive that help.


Elder Care in Fort Lauderdale FL: Senior Communication Tips

Elder Care in Fort Lauderdale FL: Senior Communication Tips


Her Life Is Changing

While you might think that your senior doesn’t realize how much she needs your assistance, you might be surprised. She knows that her life is changing and it’s possible that she’s doing everything that she can to resist those changes. There may be a period of time in which your senior is mourning her old life and is still adjusting to her new one.


She’s Not Used to Asking for Help

Many people, and this may include your aging adult, go through their lives being fiercely independent. If that describes your senior, you might need to reflect on this idea for a moment. Asking for help or even receiving help that’s offered can take some time. It’s possible you might need to back off and give her that time.


Your Approach Doesn’t Help

You might think that there’s nothing wrong with your approach but it’s really easy for you to inadvertently bulldoze your senior and what she wants. If you’re not treading carefully, it’s possible that you’re stomping all over your elderly family member’s feelings. That can be enough to cause someone to turn down the help you might want to offer.


You’re Not Including Her in Decisions

Taking over everything is a surefire way to irritate your aging adult. When there are decisions to be made, be sure to include her in them as much as you can. Most of the decisions you’re making affect her life directly, so it makes sense to include her. For example, when you’re ready to hire elder care providers, ask your senior how she feels about the idea and involve her in the selection process.


She May Not Ever Be Happy About It

The reality of the situation is that you can do everything right and your senior may still never, ever be happy that she needs your help. She may be just that stubborn or she may simply be so focused on maintaining her independence that help makes her cringe. Whatever her reasons are, try to talk with her about how you can make the situation better for her.

Offering help and receiving it can be difficult for everyone, you included. Stop and think about what you know about your aging adult and how you would want this type of situation handled for you if it were reversed.

If you or a family member are in need of  Elder Care in Fort Lauderdale, FL, call the caring professionals at Star Multi Care today at (954) 870-4770.

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About the author: Stephen Sternbach
Stephen Sternbach has been the Chairman of the Board of Directors, President, and Chief Executive Officer of Star Multi Care Services since 1987. After the sale of the New York and New Jersey operations of Star Multi Care Services, Sternbach brought the company private where he remains President and CEO of this newly developed $22M home healthcare company. With Sternbach at the helm, Star Multi Care Services employs more than 550 employees, in six offices throughout Florida, Pennsylvania, Ohio and New York. From 1978 to 1986, Sternbach was associated with Automated Data Processing, Inc. (“ADP”)–a provider of information services, where he held several marketing positions before becoming the Director of Sales. 1999-2008 Sternbach was an active participant on the Board of Directors for Proginet–a computer software company based in Garden City, New York. He also served on the Board of Trustees of the Long Island Chapter of the National Multiple Sclerosis Society from 1996-2002. In 1996, Stephen Sternbach was named “Entrepreneur of the Year” by Ernst & Young, Paine Webber and NASDAQ. Sternbach was also named in Crain’s New York Business Article, “40 Under 40” Successful Business Executives/Future Business Leaders in 1995. While maintaining a diversity of business and personal interests, Sternbach concentrated most of his efforts over the past 28 years towards continuously improving the quality of services delivered by the Star Multi Care Services’ family of companies. Stephen Sternbach holds a Master of Public Administration from Syracuse University – Maxwell School of Public Administration and a Bachelor of Arts in Industrial Relations and Personnel Administration from Ithaca College.