What Can You Do to Cope with False Accusations?

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Very often people who have dementia will claim that you or other family members have stolen their money or personal items or are doing something else equally horrible. These accusations aren’t true, but they still hurt and your senior is extremely upset by them. So how do you cope with them?

Home Health Care in Hallandale FL: Coping With False Accusations
Home Health Care in Hallandale FL: Coping With False Accusations

Leave Personal Feelings out of It

Your immediate reaction to these false accusations is probably to feel horrible and sad about what you’re hearing from your aging adult. But she’s not saying these things to hurt you. In fact, she doesn’t fully comprehend the impact of what she’s saying to you. Take a deep breath and try to remember that this isn’t about you.

Logic Is not Going to Help

Likewise, logic is not going to help you out of this situation. Your senior is not using logic and her brain is not able to work in that way any longer. Instead, listen to what your senior is saying and let her know that you hear her.

Keep Your Voice and Your Body Language Calm

While you’re talking to your family member you might feel frustrated, but you shouldn’t let that show in your body language or in your voice. If she’s already worked up, it’s not going to help for you to be worked up, too. Keep your tone of voice and your body language as calm as possible.

Make Answers Short and Simple

On a good day, your senior will likely respond better to shorter sentences and simple sentence constructions. When she’s already upset, you need to use this technique more than ever. This can help to reduce confusion and reassure her that you’re hearing what she’s saying to you.

Use Distractions, Duplicates, and Alternatives

Duplicate items can really help when your senior frequently loses something like the remote or her reading glasses. You can make that item reappear for her, which can get you out of trouble with her. Offering up alternative activities or distractions by way of things your senior loves can also help you to get through these situations.

Hearing your senior making false accusations about you or about other people can be really difficult. If you’re not already taking care of yourself, it’s going to be even more difficult. Set up some respite time with home care providers and take frequent breaks so that you can come back refreshed and ready for the next round.

If you or a family member are in need of Home Health Care in Hallandale, FL, call the caring professionals at Star Multi Care today at (954) 870-4770. Providing service in Boca Raton, West Palm Beach, Delray Beach, Boynton Beach, Weston, Southwest Ranches, Pembroke Pines, Cooper City, Lighthouse Point, and Wilton Manors.

About the author: Stephen Sternbach
Stephen Sternbach has been the Chairman of the Board of Directors, President, and Chief Executive Officer of Star Multi Care Services since 1987. After the sale of the New York and New Jersey operations of Star Multi Care Services, Sternbach brought the company private where he remains President and CEO of this newly developed $22M home healthcare company. With Sternbach at the helm, Star Multi Care Services employs more than 550 employees, in six offices throughout Florida, Pennsylvania, Ohio and New York. From 1978 to 1986, Sternbach was associated with Automated Data Processing, Inc. (“ADP”)–a provider of information services, where he held several marketing positions before becoming the Director of Sales. 1999-2008 Sternbach was an active participant on the Board of Directors for Proginet–a computer software company based in Garden City, New York. He also served on the Board of Trustees of the Long Island Chapter of the National Multiple Sclerosis Society from 1996-2002. In 1996, Stephen Sternbach was named “Entrepreneur of the Year” by Ernst & Young, Paine Webber and NASDAQ. Sternbach was also named in Crain’s New York Business Article, “40 Under 40” Successful Business Executives/Future Business Leaders in 1995. While maintaining a diversity of business and personal interests, Sternbach concentrated most of his efforts over the past 28 years towards continuously improving the quality of services delivered by the Star Multi Care Services’ family of companies. Stephen Sternbach holds a Master of Public Administration from Syracuse University – Maxwell School of Public Administration and a Bachelor of Arts in Industrial Relations and Personnel Administration from Ithaca College.